Author’s Note: This column concludes my “Balance Quartet”— March: Overall life balance; May: Exercising/eating balance; July: Family/work time balance; and September: Listening/talking balance.
Growing up with nine siblings, trying to get “mic time” at the kitchen table was a bit like “The Hunger Games.” Sometimes, taking out another kid — interrupting a speaking sibling — seemed the only way to stay in the game.
I’ve since learned that interrupting others is a game ender, not a game saver. When we interrupt others, we vocally dismiss them. We’re essentially telling them that what they are sharing is not as important, nor as interesting, as the “gems” we feel absolutely compelled to immediately impart.
I recently watched our oldest son, Mickey, interrupt his lifelong bud, Mike. A witty man, Mike quickly jabbed back with this humorous maxim: “Oh, I’m sorry … Did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?”
Here are the three listening/talking commandments I’m working on following:
- Thou shalt not interrupt.
- Thou shalt live as if our “Listen & Learn” minutes are 2x our “Talk Time” minutes.
- Thou shalt be “all in” — ears, eyes, mind and heart at full attention — when listening.
Achieving listening/talking balance with family, friends, co-workers and clients is a matter of progress, not perfection. Only through daily practice shall we tame our tongues and tune in our rabbit ears.
To kick off my listening better crusade, I want to close this column with five questions formulated to help you co-engineer some of the topics we tackle in 2018. Please email your answers to any or all of the questions in the box at right to firstname.lastname@example.org, with the subject line: “PMP listens.”
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